48 Relationship Journal Prompts to Help Rekindle the Spark With Your Significant Other

If you're in a long-term relationship, then you'll definitely know.

You'll know how things can get a little... stale.

You might start to feel like the 'good thing you had going on' isn't as 'good' anymore. The spark has gone, and you don't know how to get it back. 

But that doesn't mean you're doomed. 

It just means you need to find alternative ways to reconnect with your S.O. 

And this is where relationship journaling becomes your friend.

Through journaling together you'll open up emotionally, and regain the closeness between the two of you. The key is to make journaling fun, accessible, and simple for both of you to enjoy the process. 

So, after chatting with friends in happy long-term partnerships and marriages, along with hours of online research, I came up with 48 relationship-focused journal prompts to rekindle the love.

These prompts will have you reminiscing about the good old days, and appreciating the little (and big) things you like about each other.

You'll confront areas of your relationship which need work, and be encouraged to find creative ways to have fun, and love up on your S.O.

Are you ready to do this?

Great. Grab your partner, and let's get this show on the road.

How to Use Relationship Journal Prompts with Your Spouse, Boyfriend or Girlfriend?

These journal prompts are specifically for long-term relationships. That said, I understand people define what 'long-term' means in different ways. For some, long-term is being married for decades. For others, it means being together for a solid couple of years.

Here are some ways you can tackle these written prompts together:

If you find a prompt that isn't working for you, tailor it so it does.

Or just flat-out skip it.

Note, these prompts aren't written in any particular order, so jump in and out wherever you like. Answer one prompts a day, 10 a day, or one a week. The frequency is up to you.

Write about your inner thoughts, big feelings, and experiences with your special person. Encourage your partner to be open and honest in their responses. And do the same with yours. Seriously, your journal is one place where you can leave judgment at the door.

Think of it this way; no one can expect to really open up if they're scared of being judged.

But what if your partner isn't as enthusiastic about writing their inner thoughts down on paper? 

48 Journal Prompts for Relationship Rekindling Your Love

Prompts for Love and Emotional Connection 

1. Write about your first date with your significant other. Where did you go? What did you do? What impressions did you have of your person at the time? How you were feeling before, during, and after the date? Did anything surprising, funny, or embarrassing happen? Write about that too.
2. Describe what it was like falling in love with your partner. Did you know straight away, or was it a long, slow burn? What were the signs that this was something special, and not just a fling?
3. What sensations do you feel in your body when you are deeply connected with your partner?
4. What does it feel like when there's a disconnect between you?
5. What are some of your most memorable experiences as a couple?
6. What three things do you both have in common?
7. How do you like to show and receive love and affection? Is it through physical touch, words or acts of service, or something else entirely? Are you aware of your partner's (and yours) love languages? How can/or do you use this information to improve the way you express and receive love in your relationship?
8. What does it mean to you when your partner is vulnerable with you?
9. Write a list of all the things your partner does for you that says: "I love you." Be as specific as you can, and don't forget to include the small things (because they often get overlooked).
10. How have you made your partner feel loved today?

Relationship Prompts for Expressing Gratitude and Appreciation

1. Write about what makes your partner so special to you. What qualities do you love and admire most about them? Are these physical, personality/character based, or a combination of unique traits?
2. What's something that makes you happy about your relationship?
3. What’s been the best thing that’s happened in your relationship this month? This year?
4. Write about the sweetest, most thoughtful, or most romantic thing your partner has ever done for you.
5. What are three things you could do to bring your partner more joy this week?
6. What's the most meaningful compliment your partner ever gave you?
7. Describe what your S.O.'s laugh sounds like and how it makes you feel when you hear it.
8. What are you most grateful for when it comes to having your partner in your life?

Relationship Prompts for Fun and Togetherness

1. Think about the last time you and your partner had a really fun, exciting experience together. What made it so special? What did you do that was different from other times when you've spent time together?
2. Brainstorm some new and novel ways to break out of your day-to-day routine, and have fun together. Which of those ideas could you make happen this week? Or even next week?
3. What's something you enjoy doing with your partner that the two of you don't do often enough?
4. If you had a whole week to spend on a road trip with your partner, where would go? What would you do?
5. How can you make date nights more frequent, fun, and romantic?
6. What habits, routines or rituals have you created that contribute to strengthening your bond with one another? For example: never going to bed angry with one another. What other habits, rituals, and routines can you introduce to make sure your relationship stays strong?

Relationship Prompts for Physical Intimacy

1. How important is sex in your relationship? Do you and your partner have similar levels of desire? If not, what do you do (or can you do) to make sure you both get what you need?
2. What things make you feel sexy, confident, and motivated in the bedroom? What kinds of activities help you get in the mood for sex?
3. Describe three things you find incredibly sexy about your partner. These can be anything from the way they move, to the way they style their hair, to the things they say. Or something totally different.
4. What is your hottest sexual memory of you and your partner? What made the experience so hot for you?
5. Describe a time when you were sexually aroused by your partner but couldn't act upon those feelings due to the environment you were in at the time. How did you handle the situation?
6. What do you most enjoy about your sex life?
7. What aspect of your sex life do you need to work on, and why?
8. What are two things you want to try more of sexually?
9. What non-sexual intimate act do you enjoy most with your partner ie cuddling, holding hands, etc?

Prompts for Relationship Growth, Challenges, and Balance

1. In what ways does your partner motivate and inspire you to grow as an individual?
2. What has this relationship taught you about your capacity to love - both yourself and another human?
3. What do you wish your partner understood about you that they don't already?
4. In what ways does this relationship meet (or not meet) your needs? Write down all the things you need from your partner in order to feel safe and valued by them. For example finances, responsibilities, love, care, and attention. Are your needs aligned with your partner's needs? How can you find balance between your needs?
5. What was one of the biggest challenges in your relationship so far, and how has it made you stronger?
6. Write about one of your first fights with your partner and how you both reacted. How has your ability to communicate and resolve fights developed since then? What do you improve on in this area?
7. What steps can you take to make it easier for your partner to forgive you when you hurt their feelings or do something wrong?
8. How has your partner changed physically, emotionally, and mentally over the years? Explore the impact of this change on your relationship, both positive and negative.

Prompts Focusing on Goals, Dreams, and Hopes

1. Are there any areas of your life that you would like to change, but haven’t? What's holding you back from making those changes? How can your partner support and encourage you in making those changes?
2. What would you like to achieve as a couple within the next 1, 5, 10, and 20 years? Are your hopes and dreams in line with those of your partners? If not, what can you do to bring them together?
3. What three professional or career goals would you like to accomplish within the next 5 years? What support would you need from your partner to achieve these goals?
4. How do you feel when your partner supports you in meeting your goals?
5. In what ways could your partner become more supportive, if they aren’t already?
6. How does it make you feel when your partner doesn't support your decisions or life choices (assuming they are healthy ones)? How can, or how do you address their lack of support?
7. In what ways can, or do you support your partner with their goals, dreams, and ambitions?

Looking for more ways to bond with your special person?